Do you let Society control your life?

We have all been a victim of  " What will the people say " and probability is that most of you are still struggling with your life  because of this hypothetical controlling element created by this society to limit a person's growth and to chain their wings of progress and happiness.

but should you really be worrying about what the society has to say about your life ?

should you let this Society control your life ? 

in this article , I am going to tell you how and why you should free yourself from this psychological trap.

Why do I call it a psychological trap ? lets see...

What is Society a.k.a Samaaj ? 

Society as we are taught is the collective body of people we either know somehow or people we ever interacted with or will interact with in our future. 

 

we are also taught that this society will judge us on the basis of our choices and actions that we make for ourselves. but what we are not taught is that 

Society is a hypothetical term used for an entity that exists there only to make a person feel that they are not living in this world alone and they can call someone their friend or address someone as their relative.

yes Society is hypothetical , or in simple words , society is something that does not even exist. it changes as you grow your life.

Society / the people around you change their perspective about you as you progress in life. at every stage of your life they will be there to judge you.then why do you care about them judging you ? will their thinking about you ever affect your life in any way? 

" Log kya kahenge "(what will the people say) , let them say anything , how does this affect your life ?

let me prove to you how this is a psychological trap built by yourself only.

Society in our Studies 

When we used to be a small kid we were always pampered so much and were taken care of. as we grow up, our parents and relative start telling us that we will have to be capable of living this life and we have to do certain things for it , like studies.

 

we study to gain knowledge so that we have all the necessary tools to live our life. 

but people around us or rather say the older people around us have made it a sport. they use their children as race cars to compete with other parents and boast about their kids and their abilities. this may sound okay-ish to some people but this is where the seed of this psychological trap gets sown.

We at a very young age don't necessarily have a thought process of our own. rather we are like programmable computers. and due to this we get programmed to "prove ourselves" in front of others , we get programmed as if it's some matter of our parents pride and we must prove that we can also do what the other kids can do. in this so called race , our innocent minds do not realise that everyone has different abilities and skill set. while a person may be good in studies the other can be a good artist.

most parents also don't focus on this psychological programming of their kid by this so called society as they get to showoff their "Product" to other parents as well.

Society in Choices

when we get the opportunity of making a choice of our own for the first time in our life, this hypothetical family member(Society) pops its nose towards our parents forcing them to control our choices. 

yes I'm talking about the Stream selection in class 11th.

most parents don't let their children choose what they actually want to do in their life and enforce their choices on them by saying "what will the people say" , hence unknowingly programming their psychology to think about the society and its hypothetical rule before thinking about their own life.

Why do parents care about the Society so much ?

Every person in this world likes to boast about something that they have and our innocent parents are Also the same. they feel pride by bragging about their Childs skills and abilities. this programs the psychology of most parents into thinking that "my children should always do something that is associated with my pride and makes my children look superior to other." 

this is where the problem gets worse and you get bound to make choices about your life taking into consideration your parents pride and the judging eyes of this society.

You , now are supposed to do elite jobs , take elite choices and be friends with elite people, regardless of how you feel and what you want to do with your " own " life. 

THIS BASICALLY IS PARALLEL TO WASTING YOUR LIFE.

You were born to live this on your own choices. it is your life and you are supposed to live it your way.

you are the director of your life and you are supposed to write the script of your life all by yourself.

Society in marriage ( the main issue )

Societies / samaaj , is primarily based on Casteism and this is where most people are snatched off their most important choice in their life. 

THE CHOICE TO CHOOSE A LIFE PARTNER.

as most parents are psychologically programmed throughout their life, they take this as a matter of their pride. " my son or my daughter should marry a person belonging to our Caste community or else this society will boycott us" . 

first of all , the society is a hypothetical body and this so called community will not be providing you with any award at the end of your life. 

you as a parent should be understanding that your child should be having  the sole right to choose their life partner as they are now capable of living their life on their own. this society that you have formed in your mind is not going to stay at your childrens home or become their life partner. this society is not going to take away the right of your child to live happily with their partner. this community is not going to be eating at night with your child while listening to all their problems. this society is not going to cuddle up your child after a busy day. this society is not going to make memories with your child as they grow old.

Societies are formed so that a person doesn't feel alone in this journey of life. communities are formed to make a person feel like a part of a big family. they don't control your life and they can never control your life or the source of your happiness.

IN THE END,

a Society / community is something good when it comes to feel like you have some people you can relate yourself to but don't let the fear of being judged by these people ruin your life. you should be making your choices for yourself. 

You and your family is what matter for you at the end of the day. The happiness of your family and you is more important than anything. your happiness is what matter at the end of the day , even for your parents. they may scold you for making some brave choices but once they see that your choice is making you happy they Melt up for you and shower their blessings on you.

Your family and you, is what matters.take decisions you think are good for you and your family. your parents have lived their life with happiness and now are on the stage of seeing you happy , your happiness is what concerns your parents most and this is everything life is about. make choices that make you happy. take the decisions which help you grow in life. make yourself happy and your family happy don't think about what people will say. 

NO ONE JUDGES A HAPPY PERSON.

so choose it if it makes you happy. love yourself and love your family.

life is too short and there should not be anything to regret about when you are at the end.

keep succeeding and make your parents proud of who you really are. 

Thanks for reading.